Category Archives: Personal Development

Change of Direction | Welcome to, Life With Erica

Good Morning Readers,

I am blogging to share with you that I have decided to change the direction of my blog.

I launched Fit Life With Erica in February 2019, as an inspirational blog catered to health and wellness. Most of my blog posts were based on my fit pregnancy lifestyle, meal prep, and informational health data.

Blogging is a true outlet for me. My perfect gem. As I step into this new direction, I am bringing all of my readers along.

I have always prided myself with being transparent to my followers and as I travel along in my journey, things change. Currently, my path is changing and there is so much more for me to share with each of you. As a wife and mother there is much more to my life other than working out and counting calories and I am using this season of life now to open up and share that with you.

Welcome to, Life With Erica.

It took me a while to make this decision but I am very confident that it is the best decision to make. I have so much that I want to share with my readers about my life and adventures. Deciding to change the direction and topics of my blog, will allow me to blog more often and explore more topics.

Some blog topics that you can expect to read here will include: baking, biblical perspectives, cooking, current events, family, history, inspiration, life updates, literature, and travel.

Over the next week or two I will work to create more scheduled posts. Look forward to Motivational Mondays. That is something I will still be continuing since it has been such a positive aspect of my blog which readers have shared that they enjoy it the most.

If there are any topics you would like for me to cover please share those topics with me. I want to thank each of my followers for their continued support, as I continue on my blogging journey.

Life With Erica ❤

12/31/19: Day 365. A few things I learned in 2019

  1. It’s ok to say “No”

I am that people pleaser type of person and often struggle with saying “no”. As a result, I take on a vast quantity of additional tasks all because I simply like things to be done a certain way and this can only be guaranteed if I pilot the plane. Basically, I am a Capricorn and that should sum everything up.

 This year I’ve learned how to say “no” and feel ok about saying it without guilty of making others feel bad. For me this year it was about setting limits to how much I will take on without incurring any additional stressors.

2. It’s ok to take a break.

I took some time off from blogging and other projects I had going on in 2019 after the arrival of our son. I was hard on myself about making this decision but it was well worth it. I have embraced the fact that it is ok to take a break. Family comes first and will always remain first in my life. Motherhood has taught me so much and the early years are just as precious as any other year but even more especially since our kids do not stay small for long. The newborn and early years is my favorite stage. Once your babies start walking they often are too busy to stay still long enough to hold.

Therefore, this time around with our third child I made it a priority to take a break from the various projects I am working on. And it was great!

3. Quality over quantity of friendships.

There was a point in time when it felt good to have a long list of friends to call on and talk to. I am beyond that stage in my life. As the years pursue after high school and college, friendships dwindle away. Each of you may be going through different stages within your life and may even be on different paths.

What I have learned is that it’s not about the quantity of friends you have but the quality. You don’t have to hang out with a group of people every weekend or even see them that often to have a good quality friend. It’s about what that friend brings to your life; whether it’s support, motivation, or inspiration. I have those friends in my life and they each play a crucial role whether they are 5 minutes away, thousands of miles apart (Texas), or if they live right next door. I thank each of you (you know who you are) for what you bring to my life whether we hang out or speak every day or not. You are needed and appreciated.

4. Welcome criticism openly.  

I am my biggest critic. Having this trait has helped me in so many ways in being successful. I take criticism and dissect what I can take from it to turn negatives into positives. Welcoming criticism has improved my listening skills in order to actually hear what is being said. Critical thinking and problem solving has helped to better understand the perspective of others. I’ve learned not be defensive, as I refuse to make excuses.

 I do not self-proclaim that I am perfect. I make mistakes and I am constantly learning as a result. I have grown and will continue to grow.

5. Never give up; no matter how far behind you fall.

This year (2019) I committed to a few different things. First, reading through the Old Testament. Secondly, journaling daily before bed. Both are two important outlets in my life that I am very much passionate about. However, being a busy mom – my days can be very unpredictable. I struggled with continuing after falling behind schedule on these outlets. I would quickly become discouraged and would want to give up if I fell behind to the point of not being able to quickly catch up on missed days.

However, I have learned this year to NEVER give up on something that I am passionate about; no matter how far behind I may fall. Just simply committing a few minutes out of my day is better than no minutes at all. And if I don’t ever pick up my bible or journal “I” am the only thing standing in my own way. Now, I carry my bible and journal with me to the majority of places I go. Incorporating these two items makes it a part of my day and hard to fall short on.

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I want to wish everyone a happy and safe New Year’s Eve!

Bye-Bye 2019 … Hello 2020

P.S. on a side note one of my good friends blessed me today with a bowl of black eyed peas. Thank you Ameerah for keeping and introducing me to a new tradition. I am accepting all of that good prosperity into the new year.

FLWE ❤  

Invest In Yourself: You Can’t Get Any Water From a Dry Well

This post came across my news feed on Facebook and I immediately shared it with my friends. It resonated with me personally because I know what it feels like to wake up and go to work each day and give 8 hours to a company and come home feeling drained of energy and peace.

I have been in a place where I was too tired to work on my goals due to lack of inspiration. All because I was giving 8 hours of my day, 5 days a week to a company that was leaving me empty and deprived.

Once I realized that I was in a place of disaster, I proclaimed that something had to change…

Never again will I ever work for a company that does not invest in me.

Never again will I ever work for a company that drains my energy.

Never again will I ever work for company that disurbs my inner peace.

Never again will I ever work for a company that hinders me from focusing on my own goals.

Never again will I ever work for a company that leaves me feeling uninspired.

I don’t know about you by I have so many goals and projects that I have committed too and I refuse to let anything or anyone stand in the way. I don’t make excuses for myself, because I refuse to be the roadblock in my own path.

I am sharing this post with my readers because this is a message that someone needs to hear. Don’t go another day without setting some time aside to focus on you and your goals. We make time for what we want to make time for. If you working on your goals does not fit into your schedule you obviously don’t want to achieve that success you claim to be chasing after.

Time is the greatest investment you can make within yourself. If you are not investing time in yourself you can’t expect to produce results or greatness. You can’t get any water from a dry well.

FLWE ❤

6 Tips on How to Become a Morning Person

Are you struggling to get moving in the morning? While, you may refer to yourself as not a “morning” person- you are very capable of becoming one. I will be sharing 6 tips on how to become a morning person. Routine is everything! Training yourself does not solely relate to working out. We also have to train our body, especially if we are seeking to make changes in our lifestyle.

6 Tips on How to Become a Morning Person

  1. Create a schedule: Having a schedule in place is essential. Create a morning routine and stick to it! A schedule will not only hold you accountable but it will keep you motivated. I recommend for you to select a time and commit to waking up and eating breakfast at the same time daily. This includes weekdays and weekends. You can even include a morning workout or morning stretch into your routine which will help get you moving after your slumber. You will notice after a week that your body time clock will have adapted to your new schedule and you may find that you are waking up before your alarm.
  2. Use a Smart Alarm: Opt for an alarm that does not have a snooze button. I have overslept so many morning by accidentally selecting the snooze button. Some of those mornings were not accidental but definitely resulted in me running late to work. I personally hate to hear abrupt and annoying alarms in the morning. I was lucky enough to find a application, “Sleep Cycle” in my app store (Apple). Sleep Cycle allows you to select the time which you need to wake up by and will gradually wake you within 30 minutes prior to that time, depending on where you are in your sleep cycle. Studies report that there are stages of sleep when you should not be interrupted. This app monitors your sleep cycles and wakes you at the most appropriate time in order to wake you up when you are feeling optimally rested.
  3. Open your blinds: Allow natural or artificial light into your bedroom and throughout the house. Lighting signals to your brain to stop making melatonin which is a hormone that encourages sleep. Waking up before the sun rises can be a challenge especially if you are trying to wake up and get ready in a dark or poorly lit room. The darkness and poor lighting will promote sleepiness.
  4. Exercise: Opting to exercise or stretch first thing in the morning is a perfect routine to help wake up your body. It has been reported that morning exercises assists with lowering blood pressure, reducing stress/anxiety, and encourages you to sleep better at night. Recommended activities: morning walk/jog/run, walk your dog, yoga
  5. Enjoy a protein-packed breakfast: Avoid heavy breakfast items such as biscuits or bagels. Instead opt for high protein items such as eggs and yogurt. Protein encourages wakefulness and will help in keeping you full longer. Protein is packed with nutrients to keep your energy levels elevated which will further help you feel better in the mornings.
  6. Avoid naps: Fight the urge to nap throughout the day. Naps can definitely through off your schedule and destroy all your progress from your newly developed morning schedule. Naps make it harder to fall asleep at night. If you are noticing that you are feeling sleepy towards the end of the day, use this as an opportunity to go to bed earlier at night.

I hope you find these 6 tips useful. Please comment below your experience and feedback. Let me know what worked and did not work for you. Your insight can help others. If you are a morning person, please share any advice you have regarding what keeps you grounded and motivated.

FLWE ❤

Motivational Monday: Personal Development as a Motivating Factor

While, fitness and health is important; so is your mental health and wellbeing. Strength training and eating right to build your endurance is a necessity. Building up your mental is important as well and often is neglected. The problem with neglecting your mental wellbeing is that no one but yourself will know that you are struggling; and often people struggle in silence. If this is you– make the necessary changes to make improvements today. Lack of mental strength is more than likely the root cause of your lack of motivation.

Ask yourself: Are you motivated? What is it that motivates you? Do you have a daily routine that gets you moving each day?

Indulging in daily personal development is what keep me motivated. Prior to this year I was not familiar with the term, “personal development.” Personal Development is defined as: activities that improve awareness and identity, develop talents and potential, build human capital and facilitate employability, enhance the quality of life and contribute to the realization of dreams and aspirations.

Erica’s Favorite Podcasts

Personal development can be a game changer for you. Each morning, I start my day out listening to my favorite podcasts: The Quote of the Day Show, The Classy Career Girl Podcast, Optimal Business Daily, and Optimal Finance Daily. Many of these Apple iTunes podcasts are no more than 5-10 minutes long so it does not require a lot of time out of your day to listen to. I look forward to my morning commute just so I can listen to all of the great information these podcasts have to offer.

Personal development contributes to your own personal growth. It encourages and empowers you to think outside the box in order to reach your full potential and obtain success and happiness. Many times we are so settled into our own way of thinking and it takes a different perspective to open our eyes to new ways of thinking and concepts.

I challenge YOU to incorporate more personal development into your daily activities. Whether it is a podcast or a book- set some aside daily to exercise your mental. I promise that you will feel more motivated and inspired in your daily life. Those goals and ideas that you have stored mentally– will come to fruition.

Return back to this post in a few weeks and share with me your progress. Share this post with others, as it may be helpful to someone else in their journey to becoming a healthier and better person.

FLWE ❤