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12/31/19: Day 365. A few things I learned in 2019

  1. It’s ok to say “No”

I am that people pleaser type of person and often struggle with saying “no”. As a result, I take on a vast quantity of additional tasks all because I simply like things to be done a certain way and this can only be guaranteed if I pilot the plane. Basically, I am a Capricorn and that should sum everything up.

 This year I’ve learned how to say “no” and feel ok about saying it without guilty of making others feel bad. For me this year it was about setting limits to how much I will take on without incurring any additional stressors.

2. It’s ok to take a break.

I took some time off from blogging and other projects I had going on in 2019 after the arrival of our son. I was hard on myself about making this decision but it was well worth it. I have embraced the fact that it is ok to take a break. Family comes first and will always remain first in my life. Motherhood has taught me so much and the early years are just as precious as any other year but even more especially since our kids do not stay small for long. The newborn and early years is my favorite stage. Once your babies start walking they often are too busy to stay still long enough to hold.

Therefore, this time around with our third child I made it a priority to take a break from the various projects I am working on. And it was great!

3. Quality over quantity of friendships.

There was a point in time when it felt good to have a long list of friends to call on and talk to. I am beyond that stage in my life. As the years pursue after high school and college, friendships dwindle away. Each of you may be going through different stages within your life and may even be on different paths.

What I have learned is that it’s not about the quantity of friends you have but the quality. You don’t have to hang out with a group of people every weekend or even see them that often to have a good quality friend. It’s about what that friend brings to your life; whether it’s support, motivation, or inspiration. I have those friends in my life and they each play a crucial role whether they are 5 minutes away, thousands of miles apart (Texas), or if they live right next door. I thank each of you (you know who you are) for what you bring to my life whether we hang out or speak every day or not. You are needed and appreciated.

4. Welcome criticism openly.  

I am my biggest critic. Having this trait has helped me in so many ways in being successful. I take criticism and dissect what I can take from it to turn negatives into positives. Welcoming criticism has improved my listening skills in order to actually hear what is being said. Critical thinking and problem solving has helped to better understand the perspective of others. I’ve learned not be defensive, as I refuse to make excuses.

 I do not self-proclaim that I am perfect. I make mistakes and I am constantly learning as a result. I have grown and will continue to grow.

5. Never give up; no matter how far behind you fall.

This year (2019) I committed to a few different things. First, reading through the Old Testament. Secondly, journaling daily before bed. Both are two important outlets in my life that I am very much passionate about. However, being a busy mom – my days can be very unpredictable. I struggled with continuing after falling behind schedule on these outlets. I would quickly become discouraged and would want to give up if I fell behind to the point of not being able to quickly catch up on missed days.

However, I have learned this year to NEVER give up on something that I am passionate about; no matter how far behind I may fall. Just simply committing a few minutes out of my day is better than no minutes at all. And if I don’t ever pick up my bible or journal “I” am the only thing standing in my own way. Now, I carry my bible and journal with me to the majority of places I go. Incorporating these two items makes it a part of my day and hard to fall short on.

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I want to wish everyone a happy and safe New Year’s Eve!

Bye-Bye 2019 … Hello 2020

P.S. on a side note one of my good friends blessed me today with a bowl of black eyed peas. Thank you Ameerah for keeping and introducing me to a new tradition. I am accepting all of that good prosperity into the new year.

FLWE ❤  

Motivational Monday: Keep Showing Up

Welcome back to another Motivational Monday pep talk. A special welcome and hello to all of my new followers and a special thank you for those that faithfully show up each week and support my blog.

This weeks topic is about “Keep Showing Up”. This quote to the left perfectly sums up everything that I am about to touch base on. And don’t sit back, read, and act like you haven’t been there and felt that. Speaking from experience there are some days when I am feeling more motivated than others. On those other days it takes more than just reading some inspirational quotes to refuel my dedication to the process. When I say ‘process’ I am referring to living and breathing a healthier and more fit lifestyle.

Prior to my current pregnancy, there were many days that I struggled with my commitment to working out. I had to have a talk with myself. It was no way that I would continue to watch my gym membership fees deduct from my account monthly, while I only showed up twice a week if at all- some weeks. At one point I convinced myself that I would just walk in and cancel my membership. Each time I decided to make that move- something always stood in the way. I took this as a sign that God was not going to allow me to just give up on goals and my vision.

It is so easy to make excuses for yourself but when you have a support system behind you, pushing you to keep going- to keep showing up; it makes it harder to give up. I really owe it to my personal coach (my Husband Andrew). He is there supporting me on my good days when I am mentally and physically all in on my health and fitness journey and he is also there on those days when I want to take a break from working out (going through hell feels).

Andrew has taught me that my actions and how I apply myself is all my choice. Making that decision to show up each day no matter what; in ways both small and big is important and crucial to your success. As long as you show up, you are making progress. Keep showing up! Whether your accomplishments and milestones are small or big, there is always tomorrow to do better- to be better!

Self Reflection:

Do you have an accountability partner?

How often have you recently struggled with showing up daily for yourself? Did it cause you to derail from your fitness journey? If so, what did you do to get back on track?

If you do not have an accountability parter. I highly recommend that you find one. It is so much fun and honestly better when we are working together to achieve our goals. Accountability is what will keep you on track. You can make excuses for yourself but those same excuses are not going to be accepted by your accountability partner. Save the excuses! We are in this for the win! Each day you have endless opportunities ahead of you. Wake up to a fresh start and make the best of each day.

FLWE ❤

Motivational Monday: New Week, God is in Control, New Doors, New Breaks, New Blessings, Prepare your Mind, Enlarge your Vision

Monday Pep Talk:

Wishing everyone a prosperous new week – happy Monday! I found this quote so inspiring this morning. I do believe that God is doing new things in my life and opening new doors. I have learned to take less control and leave it up to God; everything works out when you let God take control (Just my little spiritual nudge for this week).

Self Reflection Questions:

  • Have you prepared your mind for this week?
  • Have you set your intentions for this week?
  • Is your heart in a positive place?

FLWE ❤

Motivational Monday: Consistency

Monday Pep Talk:

I hope everyone had a positive Monday and great start to a new week. Monday’s mean new week- new goals. As a reminder, “You don’t have to be extreme, just consistent”. Each step taken daily on your fitness journey will put you a step closer to achieving your goals. However, lack of consistency will result in your own setback. If you are feeling like you are not seeing the results you hoped to achieve, reevaluate your consistency. You can not commit yourself to a part time lifestyle change- it is a daily commitment.

Self Reflection Questions:

  • What actions am I taking daily to remain consistent?
  • Am I achieving what I set out to do?
  • Is a cheat day worth it?
  • Am I consuming foods filled with nutrients?
  • How do I feel?
  • Do I feel proud of myself and my results?

As always I encourage you to share your answers in the comment section. In order to be an inspiration to others, you must be transparent with not only others but yourself as well.

FLWE ❤

6 Ways on How to Begin your Fitness Journey

6 Ways on How to begin your Fitness Journey

Many of you may have thought about embarking on a fitness journey. Yet, something always seems to get in your way. The most common excuses that I hear from those that I coach, all stem from pure procrastination. You are setting yourself up for failure– if you are lacking a plan.

This week I am bringing you:

6 Ways on How to Begin Your Fitness Journey

1. Set Your Goals

It sounds easier said than done. Setting your goals and having a clear understanding of the expectation that you have for yourself is a crucial step in beginning your fitness journey. If you lack clear goals you are not going to know what you are working on or why.

This was me January of 2017. I declared as my New Years resolution that I wanted to start working out. Well, what I failed to do was set my goals. It was easy for me to sign up for a gym membership. I even committed to the gym several days out of my week. However, I did not see any results in the mirror or on the scale. I was doing at least 45 min – 1 hr of cardio on various machines (treadmill, elliptical, and stationary bike). The vision I had for myself was not clear. I didn’t have a purpose. I knew I wanted to lose weight but I didn’t have a goal weight set. I didn’t know what exercises would benefit me the most based on my goals; all because my goals were non existent.

When beginning your fitness journey it is imperative to set your goals up front. Write it out. You have to be able to see your goals on paper (the vision).

Ask yourself: What is my goal weight? Do I want to lose weight, gain weight, or maintain? Is strength training my goal? Have I checked my BMI? How many calories should I be consuming daily?

These are all important questions to ask yourself when developing your goals. Having a clear vision of your goals will set you up for success.

2. Get Motivated

After you establish your goals– get motivated. You can not wait for someone else to motivate you. You have to seek to motivate yourself. Without motivation, you will not be able to sustain in your fitness journey. There are going to be days when you don’t feel like sticking to your goals. You may feel tempted to have a cheat day or skip the gym. Motivation can push you through these negative thoughts and keep you on course. Setbacks will set your further away from your goals and results will be further out of reach.

I challenge you to think about what are the motivating factors in your life. If you are lacking motivation- you need to find motivation ASAP. Motivation is crucial to your personal success.

3. Form a Routine

A routine is a habit. Start incorporating good and health habits in your life. For me I start my day out with listening to my favorite podcast (personal development). While listening to my podcast I make my shake and tea in the morning to start my day. Since I am a working Mom, my day begins before the sun comes up while the house is still quiet. My quiet time is first thing in the morning. This is also the time where I can accomplish the most out of my day. How I start my morning, sets the tone for the remainder of my day. Waking up on the right side of the bed is real.

After I listen to my personal development podcast and enjoy my shake and tea, I am then ready to begin my day. This is my routine. If I miss this step in the start of my day, my momentum declines and I find that I am more inclined to excuses.

Your routine also includes your commitment to workout. Plan the days you are going to commit to the gym. Fitness is 80% nutrition, and 20% workout. If you plan your workouts into your schedule, it promotes self accountability which is also a crucial aspect to your success.

Do you have a routine? (Please share below in the comments) I would like to know what motivates you. Sharing what motivates you may encourage someone else in their journey.

4. Take Action

Now that you have your goals set, motivation, and routine in place; it is now time to take action. Incorporate these changes into your daily life. Consistency is key!

Remember, any distraction from your goals, lack of motivation and routine is a set back to your overall results. You can not achieve success if you are failing to put in the necessary work. Your results depend on you and your willingness to make the necessary changes within your life.

5. Document your Progress

Documenting your progress is important because it is motivating to see your progress and track how far you have come. Seeing your results over time is the most encouraging feeling. Progress is what drives success. If you see that you are making progress you will want to continue.

Do not get discouraged in the beginning if you know you are staying on course with your goals, motivation, and routine but are not noticing any results. Consistency is a major factor and results are not achieved over night.

Keep this in mind:

Results- 6 Ways on How to begin your Fitness Journey

6. Revisit and Revise Goals/Progress

On your fitness journey I highly encourage you to revisit and revise your goals/progress often. With progress, you may need to alter and make changes to your goals and routines accordingly.

For example, if your goal is to lose weight you may realize that you need to incorporate strength training or need to focus on a certain area now in order to tone.

It’s ok if your goals change over the course of your fitness journey. Being able to revisit and revise your goals is imperative to the success of your progress. What you may be currently committed to as far as goals and routines may not be working for you as they did months ago when you initially committed to them.

Be flexible and listen to your body. Take a look in the mirror. Do you like what you see? Have your goals changed? Is there more that you are looking to achieve, than what you are holding yourself accountable for?

Your biggest competition is not going to be the next person beside you or in your circle on their fitness journey. Your biggest competition should be YOURSELF! I encourage everyone to follow these 6 ways on how to begin your fitness journey. Hold yourself accountable for your health and wellness. You are held accountable for the results you are seeking to achieve.

As the coming weeks progress I plan to revisit some of these topics and blog deeper into the importance of certain areas. Keep personal development on your radar. I would love to share with you my favorite podcasts that I listen to daily for personal development.

FLWE ❤